When someone close to us passes away, one of the first steps is deciding how to honour their life. While this can feel overwhelming, understanding the different options available—such as a funeral or memorial service—can help families make choices that feel meaningful, respectful, and personal.
In this blog, we’ll walk you through the difference between a memorial service vs funeral, and also explain what a viewing, wake, or celebration of life involves. Each plays a unique role in the grieving and remembrance process, and understanding these options can help you feel more confident in your choices.
What Is a Funeral?
A funeral is a structured service that takes place shortly after a person has passed, typically within a week. Funerals are usually held with the deceased present—either in a coffin or casket—and may be conducted in a chapel, church, or cemetery setting.
Key features of a funeral include:
- The presence of the body
- A formal structure, often led by a celebrant, religious leader, or family member
- Eulogies, music, and prayers or readings
- A burial or cremation that follows the service
Funerals provide a chance for family and friends to come together, express their grief, and begin the journey of saying goodbye. It’s often seen as an important part of the healing process.
What Is a Memorial Service?
A memorial service differs to a funeral in that it is held without the body present. This service may occur weeks or even months after a loved one’s passing, providing families with more time to plan something unique and reflective of the person’s life.
Key differences in a memorial service vs funeral:
- No body or casket present (though cremated remains may be included)
- Can take place in a wider range of venues—gardens, community halls, family homes
- Often more flexible in tone and format
- Suitable for more personalised or informal gatherings
Memorial services still offer the same opportunity to share stories, honour a loved one, and support one another, but with greater flexibility in timing and style.
What Is a Viewing?
A viewing is a more intimate opportunity to say goodbye, typically held before the funeral. It’s a time for close family and friends to spend quiet, private moments with the deceased, often in a chapel or funeral home.
This can be especially important in helping some people cope with the loss, and it allows time for final farewells before the formal service.
What Is a Wake or Celebration of Life?
A wake is a more informal gathering that can happen either before or after a funeral or memorial service. Today, wakes typically involve food, drinks, and stories shared among family and friends.
A celebration of life is similar in tone but is typically more joyful in nature—focusing on the positive memories, achievements, and legacy of the person. These are often tailored to reflect the loved one’s personality, passions, and wishes.
Some families choose to have only a celebration of life, while others may pair it with a funeral or memorial service. There’s no single “right” way—only what feels meaningful to you and your family.
How Geelong Cemeteries Trust Can Help
At Geelong Cemeteries Trust, we understand that choosing between a funeral or memorial service can be deeply personal. Our experienced and compassionate team is here to help you explore your options and find the right way to honour your loved one.
Whether you’re considering a traditional funeral, a relaxed memorial service, or a celebration of life in one of our beautiful locations, we’re here to support you every step of the way.
If you’re unsure where to start, reach out to our friendly team at Geelong Cemeteries Trust. We’re here to make this journey easier, with understanding, guidance, and care.
