For the fourth consecutive year, the fences of Geelong Eastern Cemetery are being transformed into a festive display, adorned with baubles for the Christmas season.
Behind this tradition is the story of 81-year-old East Geelong resident Elaine Valentine. Quietly and with great care and character, Elaine has turned the simple act of decoration into a meaningful symbol of healing and connection.
The cemetery has always been a meeting place for her. “Every Sunday, Grandma took us to Grandpa’s grave.” Elaine purchased a grave for herself in her 20s, when exposure to poison caused a devastating decline in her health. Expected to die countless times, she survived, although lifelong challenges remain. “God needed me here because I’m useful,” she often laughs. Tragically, the grave she purchased was used by her brother when he died at the age of 33.
Her life shaped by ill health has never dulled her sense of purpose. She accepts life for what it is and has spent hers helping others. For decades, she contributed to Gala Day and Karingal fundraising – with gifts and decorations a large part of this – and now, cares for family members who depend on her.
The tradition of decorating the fence was born from a call to Geelong Cemeteries Trust in 2020 during the pandemic, seeking solace for not being able to attend a friend’s funeral. With life looking different, no community events to attend, and thousands of baubles in her garage, the idea was sparked.
It was Irene Galanakis, Client Services Team Leader at Geelong Cemeteries Trust, who answered Elaine’s first call. “When we first spoke, she was quite upset,” says Irene. “She is so passionate about giving back to the Geelong community. With restrictions, people couldn’t gather for Christmas and couldn’t attend big funerals, although they could visit the cemetery. This was her way of showing community spirit during a very challenging time.”
Her efforts in the first year were quick to bring joy, and provide her with just as much. “This is something for me to do within my capabilities,” Elaine says. Over time, her decorations have drawn gratitude and admiration from the community, with traditional colours being a big hit. Strangers stop to thank her, write to her, or share their stories. “I’ve got a face that’s once seen, never forgotten,” she says.
“From the very first conversation, it was clear that for Elaine, there is always someone to help and a cause to champion. She’s a source of comfort for those who meet her in their grief, and a pillar of the community,” Irene says.
As she continues this cherished tradition, Geelong Cemeteries Trust are mindful of sustainability and its importance to preserving the beauty of Geelong Eastern Cemetery. “Going forward, we are working closely with Elaine to decorate without tinsel,” says Jason Lyle, Director of Operations. “This change, which she fully supports, will ensure her efforts bring joy without impacting the environment.”
For Elaine, tying baubles to the fence each year is more than a festive gesture. It’s an act of healing and a means for social connection. Though each bauble may seem small, the meaning they carry is immeasurably big.
